Monday, February 14, 2011

Valentine's Day - Should It Be Abolished?

Valentine's Day gives those, who otherwise may not remember the important someone in their life, the opportunity to do something special for them. In general most women enjoy Valentine's Day, the stores love it and men for the most part hate it. Below are some ideas on how everyone can enjoy Valentine's Day.

Most when asked will say that if you are single, Valentine's Day can feel like the loneliness day of the year. But perhaps expectations for this special day are too high. Expectations can be changed. Valentine's Day can be fun for everyone, depending on how you view it and your perceptions on what you think it means. It need not be only for couples but for children and families and anyone else you hold dear to your heart. No one need feel lonely on this day if they have family or close friends, even if they are single.

Make your Valentine's Day a day from your heart, not from your bank account; ignore the commercial extravaganza and make your own traditions for this day. Valentine's Day does not put value on you as a person. There is no shame in being single; many people choose to be and are very happy with their status. For those people Valentine's Day may be about other people – friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, your pet – it can be for anyone you care about.

If you have children, you can encourage them to be part of the fun. Help your children deliver valentines, bake cupcakes with them, and let them invite some friends over to watch a movie. Or have your own friends over for coffee and a Valentine's cake.

For couples in relationships, many say there are gray areas they don't know how to handle depending on the length of their relationship or the status of it. Some of these concerns are what kind of card to get, how much money to spend on a gift, or what may be appropriate. Perhaps before the big day arrives, it would be easier to make these decisions if each person knew exactly what the day means to the other. This would help to eliminate possible disappointments on Valentine's Day. It is also a good opportunity for communication.

Or you could make the decision together to treat your loved one as if it was Valentine's Day every day by making them feel as if they were a special friend by being complimentary, courteous, polite and thoughtful. And throw a large dose of affection in for good measure.

I personally would not like to see Valentine's Day abolished in spite of how commercial it has become. I believe most men and women in their busy lives would not remember to do anything romantic if there was not a day like Valentine's set aside for them.

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