The Eight Stages of Life

The eight stages of life all have lessons and challenges, positives and negatives, that all contribute to shaping the people we become. What are these stages?

These stages are: infant, toddler, preschool, school age, young adult, middle adult and late adult. In each stage there are lessons and challenges, and knowing them can give us some control over our lives. If there are negative pre-stages, problems can develop later in life.

- The infant learns trust if he has been raised in a positive, nurturing environment. And distrust if he has not been fed when he's hungry, kept warm and dry when required or given love and caring when he cries. An infant entering into the toddler stage brings with him hope if he has learned and experienced trust in his infancy. Trust will have been based on his parents' ability to give him sustenance and comfort when needed. Distrust can lead to withdrawal and lack of confidence in his next stage if these basic requirements have not been met.

- Toddlers develop interests and like to explore their environment. Highly restrictive parents are likely to instill a reluctance in a child to attempt new challenges in this stage. If parents or caregivers encourage self-sufficiency, children will become confident. If they are held back or their attempts at self-sufficiency are ridiculed, they will doubt their ability to try new things and will hesitate when presented with new challenges.

- Preschoolers, in the three to six year old stage, begin to develop courage and independence. If they are encouraged, supported and helped, they will develop initiative. But if they are discouraged and their attempts are dismissed as an annoyance, they will feel guilty for trying new things and may become timid.

- School age children are more developed, reasonable and cooperative. If they are encouraged, they will strive to achieve their goals and will persevere at their tasks until they are completed. But if they are discouraged or punished for their efforts, they will develop feelings of inferiority about their capabiities.

- Adolescents are learning to get a sense of their identity and to determine where their lives are going. This stage is a transition from childhood to adulthood and is a particularly difficult life stage with many challenges. The age they are when they enter into the young adulthood stage will depend on when they have established their identity. This adolescent stage may end at twenty or twenty-five or whenever a person feels they have actually come of age and can feel their own sense of maturity.

- According to studies, young adulthood is from the late twenties to early thirties and is a time of intimacy where they are ready for long-term commitments in both close friendships or marriage. However some at this age may enter into marriage/intimacy while still wanting to blend their identities with others, not having yet established their own personalities. If they are unable to determine their own unique identities and establish intimacy with another person, they may feel isolated as they grow older.

- Middle adulthood can be considered between late thirties, (depending on the growth in both the adolescent and young adulthood period), and sixty-four and is a stage of productivity and creativity. It is a time when families are being started and children raised. If pre-stages have been positive, they will be mature and socially responsible. They will maintain healthy life patterns, will help with aging parents and growing and grown children. If the pre-stages have been negative, it may be a time of stagnation and challenges.

- Late adulthood is from sixty-five and onward and can be a stage of contentment or despair. If the pre-stages have been positive, they will be proud of their accomplishments, they will feel they are leading a productive and successful life and will accept the stage they are in. If they look back on their life as being unsuccessful, they will be dissatisfied and may feel depressed and hopeless.

According to research, these eight stages and what we have learned or not learned, will have an impact on our future lives. If we have had negative pre-stages, life will be more of a challenge for us in each stage.

How to Live to Be One Hundred Years Old

In several countries, the U.S., Canada and the U.K. being among them, people over one hundred years are the fastest growing segment in the population. Why are there now more people living to one hundred years and over than ever before?

Japan leads the way in the amount of centenarians they have but the U.S. with their large population have about 72,000, the U.K. 12,000 and Canada 5,825, as of 2011. Women make up the bulk of centenarians.

Studies of those who are one hundred years and older indicate this is because of the availability of better medical care, the fact that those living to this age are not smokers and they have kept their weight down. Many of these people, studies indicate, live independently, remain active, look after themselves, love life, have a sense of humor, are spiritual, courageous, accepting and are not quitters. And because of this, most have managed to keep their minds sharp.

Other things that have helped people age well is regular exercise and a balanced and healthy low calorie diet. Most centenarians believe that the occasional drink doesn't hurt either.

Genetics has a bearing on longevity but it is suspected, with research on twins, that genetic paths can be altered. As one centenarian said of her twin sister who died in her early seventies, "She was a pessimist. She never laughed." Statistics seem to indicate that optimistic people live longer than do pessimistic ones. Are you a positive thinker? How you view a situation will depend on your outlook and will also make a difference in the outcome. For those who see their cup as half full, they will have happier lives.

When speaking with centenarians, most will say they have had an active lifestyle throughout their lives. They have not let age slow them down. One lady who was one hundred years old was still driving. She also said it was necessary to have the will to do things and to stay curious.

Another lady who was 103 years old said it was necessary to adapt to change and not to dwell on the past. She also said not to be too serious, to laugh often. Laughing often seemed to be something that was consistent with all who had reached one hundred years.

Another centenarian, at 106 years old, said to put others first. She said it reduces stress and promotes well-being which helps to strengthen the immune system. Another said it was important to cultivate friendships and to get out there; that it was necessary not to isolate yourself.

According to one study, taking life easy does not lead to longevity. Surprisingly, according to this study, conscientiousness was the best predictor of longevity. This includes those who are dependable, hard-working, persistent and well-organized. Conscientious people take actions to protect their health, they don't engage in risky behaviors, they are less likely to smoke, drink in excess, abuse drugs or drive too fast. They will follow doctor's orders and make conscientious decisions on a daily basis. These people develop healthy habits early, stay physically active and associate with other healthy people.

Centenarians are often those who are receptive to new experiences. They will move out of their comfort zone and try new things. They also have a good attitude and maintain relationships. On their 100th birthdays, they will probably have many who will celebrate their party with them.